When we are learning to constellate, at first we pay great attention to developing skills and technique. While these are important, we also soon learn that they are completely insufficient – our clients are not helped as fully as they could be by the mechanics of methodology alone...
New research is returning challenging findings that a 3-day working week offers increased productivity benefits. It’s official - we can achieve more by doing less…
If you wanted to teach leaders how to make better decisions, what subjects would you include on your curriculum of consciousness?
To parody Otto Scharmer, there is a blindspot in coaching theory, training and practice, as well as in our everyday social experience. This blindspot concerns the outer place – the physical environment – where the coaching is situated.
Being ‘solutions-focused’ as coaches does not always serve our clients. Heresy, perhaps, but I think we can be more effective when we orient to the underlying need of a client, which is so often about a desire to be resourced through the quality of the relationship alone, rather than through solving a problem.
When people are in pain, it’s natural for us to want to get rid of their pain. Sometimes though, trying to get rid of something helps us avoid what is causing it. This avoidance does not really help anyone...
I learned some time ago that the best way to improve performance is to get people to relax and enjoy themselves. So picture me at the gym recently, facing the prospect of a fitness test to determine if I had made any gains since employing a personal trainer in December. I did not feel relaxed. I was not enjoying myself. No part of me believed in myself.
Are we paying the right kind of attention, as coaches, to the language that passes between us and our clients? I suspect not!
‘Mindfulness’ is the jaw-grinding word of the week, and mindless references to it in organisational work are driving me crazy! While one of its early Western exponents, Jon Kabat-Zinn, described it as ‘paying attention on purpose, in the present moment, and non-judgmentally’, I’m concerned that its careless use in business is another way of getting us to focus on the task at hand and so meet our given performance goals.
How do you go about realising your potential?
Our dominant cultural assumptions about personal and organisational development are usually about reaching goals; striving with effort; solving problems; constantly achieving… We are all looking for something, and often what we do is focus on The Next Big Thing To Achieve, rather than stepping back and looking at the pattern of our searching and striving, where there is always yearning, longing, and potential exhaustion.